So I was talking to my girlfriend yesterday and the topic came up about strip clubs. She told me that if she was invited to one she'd definitely go. She rationalized it as she wouldn't be cheating since she isn't doing gonna have sex with anyone and said I could do the same as long as I at least told her. She likes to tease me hardcore sometimes, so she could be teasing me again but I just let it go since I didn't wanna make a big deal out of it. But this isn't something I'm comfortable with her doing since I wouldn't do it myself. 

Here's my logic on the whole matter: if she goes to a strip club with her friends then maybe she'll start getting ideas in her head about things. Then she might start becoming dissatisfied on a physical level (I'm a short skinny guy but do have some muscle definition at least) and might lead her to cheat on me. But then my counter argument is that we have seriously great sex (at least for her anyway). Like, I've made her orgasm over 30 times over an eight hour peirod. So I think "If I'm there for her on an emotional level (which I try my best to be) and a phsyical level, then I should have nothing to worry about, right?"

I just don't know what to think about this and if I should be okay with her going to a strip club should it ever happen. Maybe it'll be a bit of harmless fun for her, but I can't help but feel it wouldn't benifit our relationship at all and be destructive on some level. This could just be my insecurities speaking, but I want to hear some thoughts on the matter.

tl;dr Girfriend wants to go to strip club, I'm not okay with it. Thoughts?

Stop being insecure. She could see a hotter guy than you in Wal-Mart. You have her and unless you're coming up short in certain areas, she ain't going nowhere. Insecurity definitely isn't sexy. And since both of you are grown, you have to trust her anyway. You can't stop her from doing whatever she wants to do whenever she wants to do it. You're in a relationship so you gotta trust her.

That is all.

women are like a variable frequency sine wave. I stopped trying to understand their logic and and what periods of the day they are happy or moody, now I am no longer stressing my brain out lol. I am sure they have some theory about our logic too.

depending on what side of the peak she is on will depend on how she reacts. All you can do is be honest talk to her and see how it goes lol.

or do what d21lewis said, pretty sound adivce lol.

I think anything like that should be agreed upon. If she got mad at you for going to a strip club then it'd be different but since she already told you that you can, I don't see an issue.

Now if she starts to go all the time (once a week or so) then it'd be a problem you'd have to deal with.

I don't like the idea of strip clubs either, so I understand that feel. Don't worry so much about it, essentially if worse case scenario happened like you said, screw her. She is apparently low caliber. Also, this is something you should be telling her but know that some people get really rebel over being told something they can't do and it can make you seem like a bad guy in their eyes. You can just kind of bring it up, like hey remember when you brought up strip clubs, well I kind of just brushed it off but they make me uncomfortable, like I wouldn't go to one myself and it freaks me out a bit if you did. If you do go to one I guess I can get over it, but I need to let you know that

You're right, but I just don't understand the logic behind it. Why would she go to a strip club unless she wasn't satisfied with me in some way?

And yeah, I am very insecure sometimes. I know objectively that it's stupid, but I don't know how to feel secure sometimes. There has been a lot of push pull from her towards me in our relationship, so that definitely doesn't help at all...

Eveything that deserved to be said was said in that post.

Be confident about yourself, it's you she's with, not any of those strippers. And if you truly love her, you should trust her and the relationship you have with her.

Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Without it, doubt ends up crawling in, and things eventually fall apart.

Not to mention she probablly looks at porn when your not around.

I'm going to agree with this post right here and add that you be honest about your feelings concerning this issue. Honesty leads to much healthier relationships and propper communication can be the solution to many insecurities.

When I was in University, a friend of mine had his relationship fall apart when his girlfriend blew a male stripper at girls night out thing.

So yeah, your relationship could potentially be damaged if something like that happens. Although it depends on the seriousness of the relationship. Maybe you are alright with that sort of thing?