1080p does not sell games or matter to me. To some people, it seems to matter. Maybe if I had a 55 inch TV I would care.
60 fps does not sell me games, but it is much appreciated in most. In technical fighting games it is absolutely necessary. 30 fps in a fighting game is a joke.
I will say that whether 30 or 60 fps, I appreciate Nintendo games for rarely dropping in framerate. I've experienced a lot of lag in a lot of games, but almost never in Nintendo games. That's a really big deal to me. I wouldn't necessarily say I buy Nintendo games because of their steady framerates, but I would say that I've been spoiled by their nice framerates and it's a contributing factor to my perception of Nintendo games being of high quality.
If I got to choose, I would always pick 60 fps over 1080p. It's funny because I still can't get over the way live-action stuff looks like a soap opera at 60 fps, but video games just look so smooth and gorgeous when they get there. I really feel like I can see the difference between 30 and 60. I'm glad they're aiming for 60 fps in Mario Kart 8, and the idea of HD Zelda with that kind of visual polish makes my mouth water. EAD3 did spectacular things with the Wii... to think what they'll be able to do with the Wii U...