LemonSlice said: beast-n-beauty-queen said: well the reason i wouldn't tell what really happened because i don't trust people anymore. Look, just because we don't get many girls here doesn't mean we won't get annoyed by someone who seems to just want attention. Are going to finally say something or not?

no you look...i don't need anyone's attention...i ain't forcing anyone to comment here..if you're getting annoyed then do soemthing else.and speak for yourself..what do you mean by "we"?

Fifaguy360 said: I think having high expectations in humans is dangerous because they're bound to let you down sooner or later. Keep expectations lower so you don't get burned and do your own thing.

I really don't think simply being there for a friend is a high expectation at all. Infact it's part of what being a friend is, well a true friend anyways. Nowadays it seems people throw around the term friend too loosely. Heck I even do it, though it's only to not upset my "friends."

beast-n-beauty-queen said: well the reason i wouldn't tell what really happened because i don't trust people anymore.

I don't understand how that's stopping you from explaining what happened. Surely you don't need to trust someone in order to talk to them. You've already proven this by posting here in the first place. At this point you may aswell go all the way with this.

Einsam_Delphin said: Fifaguy360 said: I think having high expectations in humans is dangerous because they're bound to let you down sooner or later. Keep expectations lower so you don't get burned and do your own thing. I really don't think simply being there for a friend is a high expectation at all. Infact it's part of what being a friend is, well a true friend anyways. Nowadays it seems people throw around the term friend too loosely. Heck I even do it, though it's only to not upset my "friends."

That's the part that got the OP. She is my true friend because I helped her in need so I expected her to be there for me. If we remove these expectations of casual friend, true friend, family then there is no let down and you've mentally prepared yourself for the worst without relying on people to intervene.

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that, beast-n-beauty-queen. You need to be more careful who you consider to be your close friends. Grouping just anyone into that category only gets you in situations like this. Apparently, you trusted this person and they let you down. People do that sometimes. You can still be regular, non-close friends. At least you know how that person really feels about you.

Though, one thing I noticed from your OP is that you did a lot for her (introducing her to friends, studies...etc.), and for this you feel that she owes you something (everything?). Remember that in the end, she is an individual and you shouldn't expect her to just be your lackey forever just because of some stuff you did for her.

Oh, and cheer up :) In time it'll all seem like nothing.

make a bridge...

Step 1-Slap her
Step 2-Say *why did you do this to me i was there when you needed most why arent you here when i need you most*
Step 3-Walk away slowly and crying
Step 4-Wait for a call
Step 5-Dump her (believe me she will suffer alot with that)
Step 6-Just move on,life will have lots of candys waiting for those who don't harm anyone =)

Fifaguy360 said: Einsam_Delphin said: Fifaguy360 said: I think having high expectations in humans is dangerous because they're bound to let you down sooner or later. Keep expectations lower so you don't get burned and do your own thing. I really don't think simply being there for a friend is a high expectation at all. Infact it's part of what being a friend is, well a true friend anyways. Nowadays it seems people throw around the term friend too loosely. Heck I even do it, though it's only to not upset my "friends." That's the part that got the OP. She is my true friend because I helped her in need so I expected her to be there for me. If we remove these expectations of casual friend, true friend, family then there is no let down and you've mentally prepared yourself for the worst without relying on people to intervene.

Expectations or not, a jerk move is still a jerk move. Just cause you expected X jerk move, that doesn't make it any less hurtful. A person is either your friend or they're not. You can expect whatever out of them, but that's not what determines whether they're a friend or not. It's their actions, how they treat you, etc., that determines this. The OPer seems to have thought that being a friend to someone makes them your friend, but that's clearly not always the case. Of course we don't know the details, but I'm willing to bet the OP's friend never really was a true friend, despite that likely being what they called each other. All expectations do is let you see, in this case, the pain coming beforehand, and possibly let you avoid it, but if it hits, it'll hurt all the same. Hope all this made sense!

beast-n-beauty-queen said: no you look...i don't need anyone's attention...i ain't forcing anyone to comment here..if you're getting annoyed then do soemthing else.and speak for yourself..what do you mean by "we"?

You wouldn't have made this thread if you didn't want attention.  You have it, let us help.  Pretty difficult if we can't analyze the issue at hand.  From personal experience,I was actually thinking about a similar situation that happened to me once upon a time, earlier today.  I got over it.  I'd still be better friends with the person if  we didn't go to different universities.  Still disappointed about the whole situation, but looking back on it, I'm just disappointed.  I got over it.  Maybe you just need time.

miz1q2w3e said: Aw, I'm sorry to hear that, beast-n-beauty-queen. You need to be more careful who you consider to be your close friends. Grouping just anyone into that category only gets you in situations like this. Apparently, you trusted this person and they let you down. People do that sometimes. You can still be regular, non-close friends. At least you know how that person really feels about you. Though, one thing I noticed from your OP is that you did a lot for her (introducing her to friends, studies...etc.), and for this you feel that she owes you something (everything?). Remember that in the end, she is an individual and you shouldn't expect her to just be your lackey forever just because of some stuff you did for her. Oh, and cheer up :) In time it'll all seem like nothing.

i helped her because i wanted too...i don't think she owes me anything...but i thought i deserved better then what i got from her.