Tell her next boyfriend that she has herpes, or fry her goldfish and feed it to her.

yes, that was assault. based on your initial account, a reasonable person would have realized that touching her like that was unwanted. you also sound like youve been stalking her.

THIS!!! :P

She accused me of civil assault and civil battery but I did nothing bad. I did not intend to do anything bad. Not even minimal intent. All I did was hug her but I did stop after realizing she really wanted me to. I honestly thought that she would've hugged me back eventually and comfort me.

Civil assault: "An intentional act which causes a reasonable and imminent apprehension of a harmful or offensive contact which is unconsented."
Civil battery: "An intentional act which causes harmful or offensive contact which is unconsented."
Proof: http://bikerlawblog.com/2006/10/09/civil-assault-and-battery-in-plain-langu/?doing_wp_cron=1362348609.9029219150543212890625

#1. It only would've been unconsented had I persisted after realizing you really wanted me to stop.
#2. There was no harmful or offensive contact nor was there a reasonable and imminent apprehension of harmful or offensive contact.
#3. Even if I did all of the above, it was not intentional and that's another valid defense.
Proof: http://www.shouselaw.com/nevada/battery-defenses.html

How did I assault her? I may have chosen an unreasonable tactic that I thought would've worked but I didn't assault her. I suppose I did stalk her by following her but she did that to me too a long time ago. I live in Vancouver.

Oh hell. I was going to say you could only have assaulted her according to the law if you lived in Sweden or Canada. Guess you should be slightly worried then.

How so? Civil assault is "an intentional act which causes a reasonable and imminent apprehension of a harmful or offensive contact which is unconsented."

If I did not do that then it shouldn't matter where I live, right?

Yes what you did would definitely be prosecutable as assault in many parts of the world. The key to this would be where this occurred. Unwanted physical contact even if non harmful in your mind can meet the criteria for physical or sexual assault in many regions. depending on where you are it may not matter what your intentions were, only what she perceived them as.

So if you merely hug someone but stop after realzing that person really wants you to, that can still be assault? That goes against all the definitions though. I live in Vancouver. Would these not still be my defenses?

#1. Lack of intent and knowledge.
#2. Lack of bodily harm.

Proof:
http://introublewiththelaw.com/simple-assault-vs-aggravated-assault/
http://www.shouselaw.com/nevada/battery-defenses.html

Well there's a gap between a true literal interpretation of the law, which was implemented in France after the revolution for like two decades before it fell into disuse, and what the judge is going to decide.

And due to social criticism theories and cultural marxism in the so-called intellectual groupings of these societies, they are more likely to rule in favor of your girl than an objective standard should demand. 

I'm not psychic. How am I suppose to know what she'll perceive?