Just ditch her. There's better girls out there.

Though, honestly, the very fact that you brought this up seems like you already knew that's what you needed to do, but just wanted to validate the choice. Don't require validation. Stand up, be a man and do what you think is right. Don't let yourself get suckered by a pretty face, because sometimes that pretty face can be two-faced.

You should be able to decide for yourself on this particular situation pretty easily. Seriously, you have the proof. The only thing being uncertain gets you in relationships is 'doormat' status.

Usually amounts to money or convenience. Also when 2 people are together a lot, it becomes an addiction to have the other person around too on a brain level so it's harder to just break away, it gives off a sense of safety and closure no matter how far away it is to the reality of the situation. What I'm trying to say is that he needs to fucking bail out right now.

You can be sure that more and more girls are going the route of open sex, so you need to adapt with the times if you're looking for a closed relationship. The market is getting competitive :P

To my questions above, does she like you, do you like her (apart from sex, are there feelings)?

She only had sex with two people: Luigi, and either an ex or a cheat (unless luigi was platonic, then another ex and another cheat).

So it's still very new for her the cheating thing, if it was with a cheat and not with an ex.

I think there's still space to manouver. Luigi just needs to be a bit reinventive that's all. Something's wrong in their sex life and he can help fix it, if he really loves her.

And if he doesn't work on it now, he may run into this further down the road where it could be devastating.

She knew full well what she was doing. Everything you need to know is in the message you showed us. She had every inclination to cheat; especially since she actually went to meet him. I do not know everything that is happening in your relationship, but I do not condone cheating. If the relationship is bad, either work on it or get out of it.

You need to end it and move on. I know at times this is easier said than done. The sooner you end it, the sooner you can move on. Best thing would be to cut her out of your life completely; at least until you have moved on.

"We weren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend but we had promised to only sleep with each other. We were definitely in a closed relationship and therefore the same rules applied."


This is a friends with benefits relationship. Im sorry to bust your bubble but there are no rules in a F&B relationship. Your saying you 2 are not together but you have together rules? Why just not be together? Im genuinely confused.

4 years, too late for that in a general sense, that's more a 6 months thing.

Assuming she cheated with one guy and was going on her second, I would assume (as a girl profile on a dating site) she's been on there for not even over a month.

For girls, it's that easy. I know because I made a female profile lol.

it's not cheating to think about sleeping with someone else. but with what you just posted you can question her heart, and if the relationship is strong enough to survive the chance she might cheat.

even though she didn't physically cheat. the chance for it to happen is very real.

oh yea just one more thing. she wanted to get caut. find out what's wrong, cause there has to be an underlying problem.

Unless you are only in it for the sex, why are you even asking this question? The mere fact that she even felt the need to ever go on a dating website while you were in her life is all the reason one should need to say it is done with.

Why wouldn't she just break up with you? I'll tell you what my ex told me about this (it wasn't cause she cheated on me, just me asking her why women cheat in general...lets just say it made me wonder what the hell else goes through their heads).

A) You have been gone (such as overseas at war, etc) for a long time, and the woman is merely doing it for companionship. It doesn't actually mean anything between her and the man, and she may even be imagining that she is doing it with you (pretty disturbing, huh?)

B) In the woman's mind, the relationship is over. Yea, she may still be telling you that she loves you, and acting like you are in a relationship, but she simply doesn't have the balls to actually break up with you. So since the relationship is "over," she sees absolutely no problem with doing things with other men (also pretty disturbing, eh?)

So ponder those, and realize that I think a lot of cheating involving women has to do with the woman being too pussy to actually break up with you.