*Sigh* I voted 0.5, because while my girlfriend and I live together and I have full access, I find myself with no desire to touch her lately. We've been staying together for six months now, and while we love each other, seeing each other every day for most of the day has been a stressful experience that is killing my desire for passion and intimacy. Just last night she forced me into a conversation on why we're not doing it more, and I had to admit that I'd rather just quietly please myself than build up the drive to initiate sex. She admitted she's been thinking of sex with another partner to meet her needs (sexual needs that were nigh unexistant for our first two years being together). Now I'm wondering how much of a future we have together and if we should seperate, or if I just need to get my act together and give her more attention.

If you read my whiny, emo rant in the above paragraph, you have my sincerest thanks whether you choose to respond or not. It's nice to have someone listen who doesn't think my relationship is or is supposed to be "just perfect."

This is vgc area of expertise, I am sure someone will respond!

Well I had that with another gf before my current one... we met at our workplace and liked each other immediatly.. so in the beginning we were really into each other.. but after 2 months living together we just couldn't stand each other... we loved each other but just being together too much time of the day was just too stressfull.. our sexdrive went down a lot.. We just ended up fighting and annoying each other... We were choking each other in life.. We weren't prepared to be each other partners... I needed to learn how to become a partner and not just this kid who loves this girl... in the end we broke up but it was a good lesson.. to love someone is not the same as to be someones partner.. it takes more then just love..

on a different note, I still see this girl from time to time and it turned out she broke up with her now ex boyfriend cause he kept thinking she was cheating on him.. with me... and now I'm constanly looking over my shoulder scared for an attack cause this guy is a marine... -__-"

haha cub,yes i will

well if you don't give your lady attention then someone else eventually will,so it's your choice really

but really communication,communication,communication (or money) is the best advice i could give for a relationship,in the end you either start a family or move on

This thread reminds me of this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qCVSyhjBhro

Dude, this really helps me right now, and I appreciate it. I met her in college and we've dated almost three years before moving in (and even before that, we stayed in the same building, just one floor apart), so it's not like I wasn't totally unprepared for what lie ahead. But until you live with someone, you can never fully prepare for life with that person.

She's made some personal changes in her way of thinking to handle an enigma like me, so I should make more effort to meet her needs. It just seeems like they came out of nowhere. I used to be the one that made everything happen in bed; now it's the other way around. But I'll take to heart your words on not just loving her, but being a better partner. So thanks again.

Why are you all complaining? At least you get to play games!

I couldn't even finish a game of BLOPS2 yesterday because my fiance decided it was as good a time as any to drop my pants and begin sexy time...

Yeah, it totally messed up my K/D ratio.

Looks like you're fucked....

Sadly not the way you'd like to have it though.

hahaha... well, this is not that funny... this is the history of my life atm...

Sexual encounters are just too abundant for me to abstain for too long. I have done really well since I broke up with my ex in May tho. Prior to that one i had to be clocking in at at least one time per day, usually a random, for at no less than a 6month period. I am not sure if it is a mixture of emotional ties I have with the Ex, or if I am just getting older, but my sex drive had died down a LOT :-/

I'm down to about 3 every two weeks.