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Roma on 27 June 2011
Wonktonodi said:
axumblade said:
Still in my relationship. about to hit the 5 year mark in October.Time flies by way too fast. I remember first crushing over him. >_<


I don't think all the relationships I've been in could even combine to 5 years.

How many have you had?



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Wonktonodi on 27 June 2011
Roma said:
Wonktonodi said:
axumblade said:
Still in my relationship. about to hit the 5 year mark in October.Time flies by way too fast. I remember first crushing over him. >_<


I don't think all the relationships I've been in could even combine to 5 years.

How many have you had?

you'd think that would be a simple question to answer.

I've had 2 relationships where both the other guy and I said we were in a relationship.

1 where I was with a guy for a few months but we were never offically anything

and 2 atempts at long distance where I went about it all wrong. I didn't even meet one of them so I really don't know what to call it.



Roma on 27 June 2011
Wonktonodi said:
Roma said:
Wonktonodi said:
axumblade said:
Still in my relationship. about to hit the 5 year mark in October.Time flies by way too fast. I remember first crushing over him. >_<


I don't think all the relationships I've been in could even combine to 5 years.

How many have you had?

you'd think that would be a simple question to answer.

I've had 2 relationships where both the other guy and I said we were in a relationship.

1 where I was with a guy for a few months but we were never offically anything

and 2 atempts at long distance where I went about it all wrong. I didn't even meet one of them so I really don't know what to call it.

Rule number 22: Never think your in a relationship until you talk about it with the other person.

I know you might have fallen in love with they guy but it is better to know rather than think you are in a relation. So if your afraid of losing the guy you will anyway if in the end the other guy does not want a relation. So the sooner you talk about it the better. This way you will know if the guy wants more time or does not want it at all.

Rule number 101: Long distance never work out :P



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TruckOSaurus on 27 June 2011
Roma said:

Rule number 22: Never think your in a relationship until you talk about it with the other person.

I know you might have fallen in love with they guy but it is better to know rather than think you are in a relation. So if your afraid of losing the guy you will anyway if in the end the other guy does not want a relation. So the sooner you talk about it the better. This way you will know if the guy wants more time or does not want it at all.

Rule number 101: Long distance never work out :P

Rule #101 is not true. I've done a great deal of long distance with my boyfriend. The 2 first years, he was finishing school and lived at his parents 2h30 away (we saw each other every weekend) and later after having lived together for a year, he got a job offer (that he couldn't refuse) and we spent another 2 years living apart during weekdays (once again we made the effort of seeing each other every weekend even though we lived 4 hours away).

So long distance relationships can work but both partners need a car :P



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Wonktonodi on 27 June 2011
Roma said:
Wonktonodi said:
Roma said:
Wonktonodi said:
axumblade said:
Still in my relationship. about to hit the 5 year mark in October.Time flies by way too fast. I remember first crushing over him. >_<


I don't think all the relationships I've been in could even combine to 5 years.

How many have you had?

you'd think that would be a simple question to answer.

I've had 2 relationships where both the other guy and I said we were in a relationship.

1 where I was with a guy for a few months but we were never offically anything

and 2 atempts at long distance where I went about it all wrong. I didn't even meet one of them so I really don't know what to call it.

Rule number 22: Never think your in a relationship until you talk about it with the other person.

I know you might have fallen in love with they guy but it is better to know rather than think you are in a relation. So if your afraid of losing the guy you will anyway if in the end the other guy does not want a relation. So the sooner you talk about it the better. This way you will know if the guy wants more time or does not want it at all.

Rule number 101: Long distance never work out :P

I pretty much agree on the long distance mostly because the only ones I have had started out online when no relationship should ever begin until you've met a guy in person.

As for you're rule 22. It was only after that I thought of it as a relationship. At the time it was just fun well until I had to stop it because he kept calling me drunk at 4 in the morning.



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Wonktonodi on 27 June 2011
TruckOSaurus said:
Roma said:

Rule number 22: Never think your in a relationship until you talk about it with the other person.

I know you might have fallen in love with they guy but it is better to know rather than think you are in a relation. So if your afraid of losing the guy you will anyway if in the end the other guy does not want a relation. So the sooner you talk about it the better. This way you will know if the guy wants more time or does not want it at all.

Rule number 101: Long distance never work out :P

Rule #101 is not true. I've done a great deal of long distance with my boyfriend. The 2 first years, he was finishing school and lived at his parents 2h30 away (we saw each other every weekend) and later after having lived together for a year, he got a job offer (that he couldn't refuse) and we spent another 2 years living apart during weekdays (once again we made the effort of seeing each other every weekend even though we lived 4 hours away).

So long distance relationships can work but both partners need a car :P


I guess that depends on how one defines long distance. For you or him having to drive 2:30 or 4 hours can feel like a long distance. But I'm talking about people who even if I was on a plane for 4 hours I wouldn't have traveled far enough. The times that you list I partially did at the end of my first relationship. Right idea but wrong man to be doing it with. As for my last relationship it was like an hour and a half.



Roma on 27 June 2011
TruckOSaurus said:
Roma said:

Rule number 22: Never think your in a relationship until you talk about it with the other person.

I know you might have fallen in love with they guy but it is better to know rather than think you are in a relation. So if your afraid of losing the guy you will anyway if in the end the other guy does not want a relation. So the sooner you talk about it the better. This way you will know if the guy wants more time or does not want it at all.

Rule number 101: Long distance never work out :P

Rule #101 is not true. I've done a great deal of long distance with my boyfriend. The 2 first years, he was finishing school and lived at his parents 2h30 away (we saw each other every weekend) and later after having lived together for a year, he got a job offer (that he couldn't refuse) and we spent another 2 years living apart during weekdays (once again we made the effort of seeing each other every weekend even though we lived 4 hours away).

So long distance relationships can work but both partners need a car :P

Well sure there are exceptions :) I should have said “rarely” work instead of “never” 



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naruball on 27 June 2011
Wonktonodi said:
TruckOSaurus said:
Roma said:

Rule number 22: Never think your in a relationship until you talk about it with the other person.

I know you might have fallen in love with they guy but it is better to know rather than think you are in a relation. So if your afraid of losing the guy you will anyway if in the end the other guy does not want a relation. So the sooner you talk about it the better. This way you will know if the guy wants more time or does not want it at all.

Rule number 101: Long distance never work out :P

Rule #101 is not true. I've done a great deal of long distance with my boyfriend. The 2 first years, he was finishing school and lived at his parents 2h30 away (we saw each other every weekend) and later after having lived together for a year, he got a job offer (that he couldn't refuse) and we spent another 2 years living apart during weekdays (once again we made the effort of seeing each other every weekend even though we lived 4 hours away).

So long distance relationships can work but both partners need a car :P


I guess that depends on how one defines long distance. For you or him having to drive 2:30 or 4 hours can feel like a long distance. But I'm talking about people who even if I was on a plane for 4 hours I wouldn't have traveled far enough. The times that you list I partially did at the end of my first relationship. Right idea but wrong man to be doing it with. As for my last relationship it was like an hour and a half.

Agreed. When I talk about long distance relationships I always refer to couples who see each other once or twice a year. A lot of my straight friends did that and it worked (though I still don't quite get how). Some of them have been together for 5 years, though their relationship doesn't seem to have much passion. Whenever I ask my female friend about her bf she always responds as if I'm asking about one of her parents or something (i.e. not much excitement). So, I guess, I get why they can handle being apart for so long. I personally would travel the world just to be with a great guy and would take a break from my studies or would try to make it work somehow (as a PhD student I can pretty much study anywhere, though I would not be able to do any tutoring).



naruball on 27 June 2011
Roma said:
naruball said:
Roma said:
axumblade said:
Still in my relationship. about to hit the 5 year mark in October.Time flies by way too fast. I remember first crushing over him. >_<

Nice! And congratulations! :D

OT:

I have been single for about 1 and a half years now after a 9 month relation. My first actually and from it I learned why so many people don’t want relationships. You think you know someone and you trust them and love them with all your heart and in the end they are not worth it. All lies and mistakes that should be obvious and should not be made.

Some people see gay life as a different thing than when a woman and a man love each other. I’m not into that “open relationship” stuff and “cheating and then be forgiven” stuff.

After I broke up I found that life is soo much more fun with no guy to worry about. All that “I have to call” and “why has not replied to my msg o call yet”. Love is work and I can’t handle it and the rest of the tings in my life at the same time. I hope I can find a way to balance them both…. :P

I have only had a relationship with one guy and one girl in my life (and I'm 25 which is kind of pathetic imho, but anyway) and every time they would start complaining about that kind of stupid things I would make it perfectly clear that I can't be with someone who is worried about that kind of stuff and does not trust me. And I've always been extremely faithfull, even though I spent a lot of time apart with both of them and could have easily had random hook-ups.

Being alone makes me really sad to be honest :( though I'd rather do that than be with someone towards whom I'm not attracted or doesn't care much about me. Whenever I hear people complain about small things or having their heart broken I always get angry (like wanna switch places dude/girl?).

Unfortunately I'm only attracted to straight guys and all the gay guys I've met are quite camp (which is fine, I'm just not attracted to them). Same with my ex bf, he worshipped Madonna, Cher etc.

One thing I don't get from people who complain about being lied to or cheated on is how do they do not see that their partner is not being sincere with them. I can always tell when someone is upset with me or does not care much about me.

Well that’s just the reason, I had just lost trust in him.

There is always a reason for everything :P its not like I was like that from the start until it ended. I would have dumped me as soon as possible if it was like that.

All of this happened 4 months in the relation. Lies started to happen and phones unanswered or msg ignored. All for pointless reasons.

I am faithful as a partner and I expect that in return and when you say you are deeply in love you should act like you are. For me once trust is lost it is impossible to restore. I might forgive but never do I forget.

You shouldn’t be sad about being alone man. Hopefully he will come when the time is right :)  

Yeah I am attracted to straight/straight acting guys as I am myself. I actually told three straight friends I liked them and that was before they knew I was gay :P

Thanks man! Lately I've been getting really worried, as I look 30 though I'm only turning 25 in a month. It really sucks. Last year I went out with a guy and when I told him I was 23 he started laughing (he thought I was joking   ). Too much studying and stress sure isn't good for anyone.



Roma on 27 June 2011
naruball said:
Roma said:
naruball said:
Roma said:
axumblade said:
Still in my relationship. about to hit the 5 year mark in October.Time flies by way too fast. I remember first crushing over him. >_<

Nice! And congratulations! :D

OT:

I have been single for about 1 and a half years now after a 9 month relation. My first actually and from it I learned why so many people don’t want relationships. You think you know someone and you trust them and love them with all your heart and in the end they are not worth it. All lies and mistakes that should be obvious and should not be made.

Some people see gay life as a different thing than when a woman and a man love each other. I’m not into that “open relationship” stuff and “cheating and then be forgiven” stuff.

After I broke up I found that life is soo much more fun with no guy to worry about. All that “I have to call” and “why has not replied to my msg o call yet”. Love is work and I can’t handle it and the rest of the tings in my life at the same time. I hope I can find a way to balance them both…. :P

I have only had a relationship with one guy and one girl in my life (and I'm 25 which is kind of pathetic imho, but anyway) and every time they would start complaining about that kind of stupid things I would make it perfectly clear that I can't be with someone who is worried about that kind of stuff and does not trust me. And I've always been extremely faithfull, even though I spent a lot of time apart with both of them and could have easily had random hook-ups.

Being alone makes me really sad to be honest :( though I'd rather do that than be with someone towards whom I'm not attracted or doesn't care much about me. Whenever I hear people complain about small things or having their heart broken I always get angry (like wanna switch places dude/girl?).

Unfortunately I'm only attracted to straight guys and all the gay guys I've met are quite camp (which is fine, I'm just not attracted to them). Same with my ex bf, he worshipped Madonna, Cher etc.

One thing I don't get from people who complain about being lied to or cheated on is how do they do not see that their partner is not being sincere with them. I can always tell when someone is upset with me or does not care much about me.

Well that’s just the reason, I had just lost trust in him.

There is always a reason for everything :P its not like I was like that from the start until it ended. I would have dumped me as soon as possible if it was like that.

All of this happened 4 months in the relation. Lies started to happen and phones unanswered or msg ignored. All for pointless reasons.

I am faithful as a partner and I expect that in return and when you say you are deeply in love you should act like you are. For me once trust is lost it is impossible to restore. I might forgive but never do I forget.

You shouldn’t be sad about being alone man. Hopefully he will come when the time is right :)  

Yeah I am attracted to straight/straight acting guys as I am myself. I actually told three straight friends I liked them and that was before they knew I was gay :P

Thanks man! Lately I've been getting really worried, as I look 30 though I'm only turning 25 in a month. It really sucks. Last year I went out with a guy and when I told him I was 23 he started laughing (he thought I was joking   ). Too much studying and stress sure isn't good for anyone.

I would be honest about the age but not laugh about it. But he probably did not mean it in a bad way. 30 is hot though! Lots of young people like older guys so you shouldn’t worry man. For me (as en example) I like guys who are about 24 to 35 and I feel that the older I get the older guys I want and I’m guessing when I am about 35 to 40 and over I will be attracted to younger guys. Funny how it works :P

I would recommend that instead of fearing about not finding someone think instead about what you want to do with someone in the future.

Btw: do you guys believe in manifestations?




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