Bringing this back from the dead because my kid is now at a point where I think some relevant things are occurring and I'm curious how those that think trans kids are being abused (not in the way most would assume) would deal with a couple simple scenarios that I think fall within "letting a kid decide their gender for themselves".
So while at the renaissance fair (not my idea, my wife gets to drag me once a year) my 3 and a half year old son saw a girl wearing some faerie wings purchased at the fair. When he commented on them I asked if he would like some, he said yes. I ignored it a couple times (like I do anything he asks me to buy to make sure he actually remembers and cares) but he was adamant so we went to get him some faerie wings and he chose pink. Now my three year old son is wearing pink faerie wings around the fair, and later at home. To me, this is part of letting a kid decide who they want to be without pushing them one way or another which is what I advocated for throughout this thread. My question is, what would someone who disagreed with my view do in this scenario. Do you tell the three year old "no you're a boy and gender expectations dictate that you don't wear pink faerie wings"? Or perhaps this is a small gender transgression that you'd overlook, but what would draw the line into something you wouldn't allow?
edit: forgot to mention, I brought this topic back from the dead because the one I made that I probably would've put this into was locked. Felt like making an entire thread around the question was a bit much so here we are.
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