Jaicee said:
There's an awful lot above to respond to and I don't know how to break up posts so that I can respond to parts thereof individually, but I'll do my best to separate sub-topics. I'm not going to spend much time on my response though, as I can tell that you're probably not going to change your mind about anything no matter what I say. You seem very determined to maintain your position. Supposedly I support "taking sex away from people" and "banning alcohol." This is hyperbolic nonsense. Over-dramatic much? Supposedly I'm setting up a false dichotomy No, I'm approximating policy approaches so that the difference in effects can be seen. Trafficking and rape Sorry, but sex trafficking is definitely on the rise specifically in countries that have more or less fully legalized prostitution, including in Germany specifically. Supposedly I'm homophobic because I pointed out that 70% of women who've practiced anal sex report pain as a result You obviously know very little about the different ways in which the male and female bodies work, so let me give you a quick anatomy lesson: 1) men have penises that achieve orgasm, and 2) men also have prostates, which are conducive to butt orgasms. Women have neither of these things. Therefore, men's bodies are designed to enjoy anal sex on both the delivering and receiving ends, while for women, unsurprisingly, pain is instead by far the most common experience associated with the practice.
I can personally guarantee you that women very broadly want to experience orgasm during sex. We're not a different species. Women almost always do, in fact, achieve orgasm during sex with other women. The rate for women is much lower in heterosexual experiences though. The trouble, in other words, seems to be that both men and the culture just simply don't much care about authentic female pleasure, or at least not as much as about male pleasure. Surrogacy Surrogacy is an uncomplicated issue morally, as far as I'm concerned. I'm sorry, but while a few women may feel that surrogacy benefits them in some way, the fact is that it is clearly harmful to far more women. No one is entitled to a child, let alone to one with their own personal DNA. |
Well on the topic of anal sex; women can and do achieve orgasm from consensual anal sex. The caveat is that the person doing the penetration needs to know how to perform it properly (sadly most straight cis men don't) and the receiver needs to be knowledgeable enough about their own body to know if it's right for them. Some people just can't do anal due to personal or medical reasons. Men and Women both weren't "designed" to have anal sex, we've just come to figure out that it is another way of having a fulfilling orgasm for both sexes. Anal sex does hurt but it hurts for anybody, especially if it's your first time, it's just the way the anus works but proper knowledge and execution minimizes discomfort/pain and it's perfectly safe to perform. It seems you have some misconceptions of anal sex, it's just one of numerous ways different individuals derive pleasure.
Being an inter-sectional feminist I do agree with most, if not all, of your views but your conclusion to outright ban and outlaw these practices and criminalize these individuals is where you lose me and it's one of the reasons I don't subscribe to your brand of feminism. There are A LOT of wrongs with these practices/industries, some of which you have so eloquently explained, but the fact of the matter is that if we made these things illegal, it will only hurt the women involved. Really, the only way forward that I can see is to legalize and regulate it so we can give the care these women deserve so they have a better standard of living.
I would like to know what you think is the best way to achieve the outlawing of these industries and practices and what should be done with the displaced women that were involved? I'm genuinely curious.
