with those pc specs it would be a waste to go for the high end HMDs, as you can't render enough pixels to feed their high res displays
the original Oculus Rift CV1 and the Oculus Rift S both are very competent offerings with great controllers/tracking and should work OK with your laptop
the only big advantage the original Vive has is that it's tracking system (best in class - v2 however increases the max tracking volume) is forward compatible and that there are several high end sets you could upgrade to in the future, but the controllers are a bit less advanced and the whole package probably is still quite a bit more expensive
you could also go for one of the Windows mixed reality sets from acer, lenovo, hp, dell or asus, which are all pretty much the same (apart from more expensive/higher res Samsung Odyssey and HP Reverb) - they should definitely be the cheapest option for "decent" PC VR, but MS hasn't really updated the platform, it's tracking and controllers are clearly a lvl below the others (but better than PSVR/Moves)