Also consider the option of not getting married. Marriage isn't right for everyone, and not everyone is right for marriage. There's no shame in that. A lot of guys get themselves into trouble because they feel pressure to get married, but they're not really marriage material, and that really ought to just be fine. A lot of messy divorces would be avoided that way.
a christian discouraging people from getting married?
what kind of christian are you exactly? an intersectional christian?