Dark_Lord_2008 said:
20 years have passed since I accepted at 16 that dating was not for me. I assumed a few rejections = all will be future rejections and no point even bothering. I am the type of guy that quits something after one or two failed attempts. I quit my drivers license after 2 failed attempts and I have never tried for it again. I almost quit college after failing one unit, I got through the course but it was a waste of time and I wish I never bothered with college. I take rejection/failure really personally. It feels like the end of the world and I am depressed about it for a very long time. Quitting reduces the stress/anxiety and I can move on with my life. I use avoidance to limit social interactions to reduce my stress/anxiety levels. |
Well i don't normally quote people (other than Rocky earlier lol) but I may have to here.
'Failure is success in progress' and ' Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm'.
Essential if you do not fail it means you are not trying to leave you comfort zone. It is easy to dwell on failures in a closed of bubble, but pretty much to better that world, you have to actually continue to fail to succeed. It makes you grow stronger and better for it that eventually it becomes second nature. Taking risks is what makes you move forward not thinking about taking them.
I failed 6 out of 8 classes in my first year of UNI. mainly because i figured it be the same as year 12, however time just went by so quickly so skipping classes wasn't a good idea as catching up was harder. At that point it would have been easy to walk away and say fuck that, but I come back next year refocused and got through it. because I was behind a year there was always a class I would fail as I was doing extra, so had to decide which one it would be then tack it on to the year after.
If i gave up after the first year I wouldn't have met my wife as she join later. That determination to move forward created that opportunity to meet her.
