These are my biggest turnoffs when getting to know a potential partner.
These are the opinions of Snoorlax, a man, so don't get offended while you read.
Tatoos/Smoker - I can be attracted to women with tatoos or who smoke but it's a bad sign which tells me the relationship probably won't last very long. Still I'm open for it as long as the girl is good looking and sweet.
Quick to make remarks/criticise - So this may sound somewhat hypocritical coming off from not liking women with ink or who smoke but I'm discrete and respectful about it. Im not fond of somebody who is quick to judge or is heavily opinionated on small things. I'm not like "I hate smokers" or "God, you're so dumb!" and these are usually people who love to say whats on their mind but dont you dare criticise them! Im not insecure or something like that but it's difficult to have a nice conversation with such a person without ruining the mood or just wanting to leave as soon as possible.
Bad manners/attitude - I can't help but cringe when I'm trying to have a normal convo and get to know a woman that has good looks but is more concerned about her phone whether she got Wi-Fi/4G or what her friends are upto. Like she can't put that phone away for one minute, when you talk to her she seems to be half listening or she doesn't have much to say... You could say she's just not interested but I've had this happen to me a couple of times and did work out eventually but it's still very annoying. It also annoys me when they got an attitude like they don't care what you think about them, very bad first impression.
Bringing a friend along - So the plan was to have a one-on-one date but then all of a sudden she decides to show up with a friend or she happens see that friend along the way and forgets that she's on a date with me. She keeps talking to her friend about a bunch of shit and people i dont know nor care about (mostly gossip) and I'm just standing or walking next to them waiting for the friend to just go away cause she's ruining my date but also knowing that she's not the faulty one. Of course I try to keep being nice, respectful and fun by trying to change topics something we can all talk about but it doesn't hold up for long and what i really want is to talk with the girl im supposed to be dating.
Being too distant/boring - Like if you want me to go away just say it, or tell me that you need to be somewhere else cause I will get the message. I don't expect a woman to be all close and touchy touchy on a first date, while that is deff nice, but I do expect her to atleast try to keep things interesting. Ask questions, tell something about yourself, fake smile whatever! Don't waste my day off!
Talking about her ex - This one is funny because I never try to bring up my past relationships even when she asks for it but when we do talk about her ex I'll just keep it cool and mature and ask her questions about how he was and what exactly happened between them. Then I'll immediately discredit the guy and try to make him look even worse just so she can laugh and stop talking about him. Now if she shows signs that she's still interested in him then I'll still try to discredit him but I'll also start doubting this girl because I don't want to sit here waste my time and money on a potential "distant friend". Sorry but I ain't got time for that crap.
She got kids - Welp, it was nice knowing ya! But for real when she tells me she got her kid(s) at home I get instantly dissapointed but not surprised because it's 2018 and that's life these days. Don't get me wrong I don't hate kids but I just don't want to deal with them. I'm still young so I want to enjoy my life without all the parent responsibilties and thats what most single moms are looking for, a potential father for her kid and I'm not into that. Id rather have my own kid when i feel im ready for it. So this confirms that it just won't work out, of course If she just wants to hook up then that's fine by me but not much else.
Last edited by Snoorlax - on 20 October 2018
