| LordLichtenstein said: I really don't want to get into the specifics as to why/how I became "famous" in my home country, what I want though, is to say that every since I did, my social anxiety has gotten much worse, to the point that I haven't left my apartment in nearly a month, with the exception of grocery shopping 1-2 times a week. I feel extremely isolated, both physically and mentally, because I constantly have to walk on eggshells - trying not to hurt or offend anyone. It is a frustrating way to live.. |
It takes a certain type of personality to even want to be famous. As everybody else I too (when I was younger cause I matured since then) was dreaming of being famous, well not dreaming of it but I thought about it, especially when seeing someone successful and loved, like a movie actor...
Nowadays it is easier than ever before to become famous, well it's still not going to happen for the average Joe but with a bit of talent and know-how anyone can start a Youtube channel and if both talent and luck are on your side, anyone can become a recognizable face and have a consequent community of followers, sometimes big enough to consider yourself publicly famous (PewDiePie, Boogie2988, Vsauce etc...)
But fame is a double trap: First to yourself. The reason one needs fame is to be recognized and influential. In psychology, people that need to be strong on the outside (fame and glory) are usually weak on the inside, they can't function by themselves, they lack independence and so they need to feel they are the center of something important. Usually such people have money and can pay for servants, domestics, butlers and whatnot and they can't stand loneliness, someone must be around them at all times to see what they do and acknowledge their existence...
And second, fame is a trap because of its inherent dangers such as stalkers, crazies, threats etc which seem to happen EVERY time someone becomes famous and the more famous a person, the bigger the amount of crazies in their wake...
This situation has pros and cons: The pros being that the famous person enjoys a special status inherent to his/her celebrity. In my experience the more famous a person is the more haughty and arrogant that person becomes. Try to have a conversation with someone famous on social media and see how it goes. It's extremely rare that a famous person even replies to your tweet or post, like why are they on a social network that is SPECIFICALLY designed to communicate and reply if they're going to make it a one way experience of them saying stuff and ignoring everybody that replies?
I have managed to have short conversations with people that have limited fame and are not very important but the more they grow in importance the more they will ignore you. Try to have a conversation with super famous people and see if they will EVER reply, like George Clooney or Leonardo Di Caprio. You are shit to them, you don't exist, you are a worm not even worth trampling . They will only talk to important/rich/powerful people, marry such people, befriend such people etc...
On the other hand people that are strong on the inside (independent, not needing social approval, not giving in to cultural or peer pressure etc...) are weak on the outside, have no influence on anyone, are anonymous and in some cases (like mine) are isolated and end up comfy in such isolation, seek it and love it like I do (Yes I am a western Hikikomori). The last thing someone like me wants is fame. I'd be very uncomfortable just having my real name and face on VGC so imagine having my name and face followed by millions? What a nightmare to me!
And that's another con of fame I forgot to mention: The more famous you are the more judged you are. Everything and anything you do will be scrutinized, analyzed and judged. Oh this famous guy checked a porn site according to the press, how scandalous, this famous guy has a strong political opinion, this famous person has a girlfriend he's not married to or cheated on his wife/her husband etc... This is insane, famous people are still people why couldn't they have controversial opinions, check out porn sites, cheat etc? This is perhaps the biggest reason I don't ever want to be famous. I want to be able to do whatever I want without it being a media scandal. Yet famous people would NEVER give up their fame cause they are ADDICTED TO IT and don't care about the negative impact on their lives. I suppose the same could be said of politicians but that's another debate.
I want to finish this long post by making clear that I am speaking of fame and famous people in GENERAL, I am not saying this is exactly you or your story LordLichtenstein, I don't know you and cannot speak of your specific situation, I'm GENERALIZING here. (Exception made of that paragraph where I speak of the opposite and hikikomori people like me cause obviously I know myself and so I can speak of myself).
Last edited by CrazyGamer2017 - on 27 June 2018
