sundin13 said:
No. You are not signing a contract which accepts your spouse raping you when you get married. That is incredibly fucked up. Under no stretch of the imagination, does marrying someone mean that you have been warned that you might get raped, or that you should accept or live with such "flaws" in your significant other. There is no reasonable interpretation of marriage under which the threat of rape or abuse is implied. To make the statement that you have been warned about your spouse being a rapist when you say your vows, is to tell women who have been victims of abuse that they have signed up for this and they will be the one in the wrong should they try to flee from this abusive situation. Further, I agree with BradleyJ. The mindset of "she married me so she should be willing to fuck whenever I am" can and does lead to marital rape, but you have also been pushing a mindset which makes it more difficult for people to leave abusive relationships, makes it more difficult for individuals to get past their abuse and makes them feel like they are the ones to blame for the abuse. |
"You are not signing a contract which accepts your spouse raping you when you get married."
sure but considering that we live in a rape culture there's that ever-present risk
"There is no reasonable interpretation of marriage under which the threat of rape or abuse is implied."
depends on whether a man is involved or not when you consider certain statistics