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CrazyGamer2017 said:
o_O.Q said:

"incidents like robbery or stabbings have a realistic chance to occur during night time. On the other hand, marriages are made with no visible or known signs that rape is a realistic possibility"

but is that true? is it not a widely held belief that we live in a rape culture?

https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/03/examples-of-rape-culture/

http://www.kcrg.com/content/news/People-March-Against-Rape-Culture-in-Iowa-City-479060463.html

 

and that rape culture is perpetuated through men

http://theconversation.com/what-rape-culture-says-about-masculinity-85513

https://www.wnycstudios.org/story/seeing-sexual-harassment-and-violence-mens-issue/

If I may disagree, when you marry a human being you marry a person that is by definition not perfect and can potentially carry flaws, serious ones in some cases, and rape is not even the worst, that spouse could be a murderer, a sadist etc...

Though I'd agree with your assessment that it will not be obvious at least at first that a spouse can be a murderer or a sadist or to stay on the issue we discuss here, a rapist, getting to know that person well, actually very well would help towards determining what kind of person he/she is. The point remains that when you marry someone it's as the priest VERY CLEARLY says: you do for the better and for the WORSE, in health and in sickness etc. in OTHER WORDS you are WARNED and at that point you choose to go on with marriage thus you take your responsibilities. Again this is obviously not valid for forced marriages, I'm just saying, before someone jumps at my throat about this specific case. If you are forced into marriage, you have no choice and therefore no responsibility, no one can tell you to wise up and be more careful next time cause you were forced. So my opinion applies in freely consenting marriages.

I should probably add that the only ones who have zero responsibility since they have zero choice in marriage are the children born out of that union. OBVIOUSLY!

No.

You are not signing a contract which accepts your spouse raping you when you get married.

That is incredibly fucked up.

Under no stretch of the imagination, does marrying someone mean that you have been warned that you might get raped, or that you should accept or live with such "flaws" in your significant other.

There is no reasonable interpretation of marriage under which the threat of rape or abuse is implied.

To make the statement that you have been warned about your spouse being a rapist when you say your vows, is to tell women who have been victims of abuse that they have signed up for this and they will be the one in the wrong should they try to flee from this abusive situation.

Further, I agree with BradleyJ. The mindset of "she married me so she should be willing to fuck whenever I am" can and does lead to marital rape, but you have also been pushing a mindset which makes it more difficult for people to leave abusive relationships, makes it more difficult for individuals to get past their abuse and makes them feel like they are the ones to blame for the abuse.