Cheating in relationships

[Rab]

PSintend0 said:

Rab said:

All you are doing is passing on the guilt and hurt onto someone your supposed to love so you feel a bit better, it's a selfish act, what they dont know wont hurt them, leave them in peace  

But he will know it and it will in either case affect their relationship. Also it can hurt a lot more if she founds about it from someone else. If she says that she wouldn´t want to know if he cheated on her or something like that, then it would be okay, but otherwise I would assume that she would want to know.

Living in a lie doesn´t sound that nice :/

We all live a lie (look at our individual belief systems), we all lie to ourselves and others everyday (Psychologists have established this for a long time), why pass on the hurt because it makes us feel better, damn selfish if you ask me