We have difference of opinions based on personal bias of what we desire from a character. I'm not going to say you're wrong, just that we have different tastes in Superman. I like seeing him save people, comfort them, and be beloved for his contribution to make us better by his example. Can call things unrealistic due to physics, but my suspension of disbelief shifts in a movie about an alien that flies and shoots lasers out of his eyes. Superman is about an emotion, he embodies hope and for me when that fails I feel disconnected from the character and movie.
I don't expect to change your mind and I respect your different interpretation even if I disagree with your conclusions. I can watch X-Men and appreciate outcast heroes hated by society, I can watch Punisher kill people and take no issue. I turn to golden age heroes like Superman and Wonder Woman and feel inspired that the world can be made better. I don't even mind alternative takes like Kingdom Come or Injustice as thought experiments, but as core telling of these characters I do prefer classic iterations.
