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TheEvilBanana said:
kain_kusanagi said:

You can't control your desires, but you can control you actions. Even fantasizing is an action, a passive act, but an act none the less. You feel guilty because you know it's wrong. If you want to stop feeling guilty don't do it any more. Don't fantasize about children. When it pops into your head, think of something else. Humans have the ability to control what they do by choosing which desires to act on. That is what separates us from animals. Over eaters can decide to eat less and get healthy even though they still get cravings for fatty foods. The over eater can't control the desire to eat tasty foods, but they can control what they choose to put in their mouth. In time desires fade even if they never go away completely. The longer one goes without acting on a desire the easier it is to control it. The hard part is going cold turkey and sticking with it.

Children are innocent, you desire to take away their innocence. Nothing good can come from letting that desire take control of you in any way.


I need to respond to this first. Fantasizing ISN'T always a choice. Sometimes i think about adult women and little  girls pop into my head. I don't feel guilty, I felt guilty AT FIRST because it's so taboo. Gay people feel guilty too. Do you think being gay is wrong because of that? Also, do you know hard it is to cum and have a good time when you're trying to focus on something other then the thing you want to masturbate thinking about? It's very hard.

How do I take away their innocence? I've never touched a child.

Like I said, if it pops into your head you just have to push it out with other thoughts. It's called will power and people do it all the time.

It's taboo because it's wrong and you know it.

We aren't talking about gay people that have adult consensual sex. We are talking about sexual fantasies involving children, innocent children. The two have nothing in common. Gay guilt is nothing like what you are feeling. Children are innocent and you know it's wrong to think of them sexually.

You don't need sex like you need air, water or food. Don't be so dramatic. If you can't do it without thinking about children then don't do it at all. Alcoholics can't drink without drinking too much so they have to quite cold turkey and never drink again. Sometimes they fall off the wagon and have to start over. It's very possible to live a happy life without any sex at all. You don't have to do that if you work on your issues though.

I didn't say you had taken away any child's innocence. I said your fantasies show your desire to corrupt their innocence. Fantasizing about raping a child is something you should seek counseling for.

I will say this again, no good can come from fantasying about children. If you came here to justify your feelings it's only because deep down you know it's wrong and you wanted to convince people to agree with you. I don't blame you for having desires, that's not your fault. I'm saying you have to control them which is very possible with work and help. Get the help, do the work, stop thinking about children.