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madskillz said:
Flow said:
madskillz said:
Flow said:
Oh, you shy people got a serious problem...

You know you have to "lose the shyness and go and talk to a girl".

I'll use a nice metaphor here, it's like you live in the jungle and there's a freaking big and evil tiger surrounding you and threatening to kill you in you little cave at any moment.

But you fear this tiger, yes! And by fearing the tiger i mean being shy to talk to a woman, fearing rejection.

But you know you've got to lose this fear... and what do you do?

This is the point where most of you think you've got to grab a random boulder and jump in this tiger like you have a S on your chest just because you've lost your fear. And damn, that's wrong. You may probably kill the tiger, but you will be hanging for your life. And probably the tiger will eat you alive.

What you gotta do is craft your weapons, study the tiger, train your fighting skills, and then face the tiger when you know what you are doing.

So, be aware that the direct approach (talking about women now, but that also apply on tigers and most big animals) will probably let you down. You need to make the female like you first, get friendly and intimate with her, tease her, and when you know you're there, go for that mouth, you'll know when she wants it.

THIS is what you need to stop fearing to do. Now drop that damn boulder

Dude, wouldn't that approach like kill your prey? I would rather lay down and get busy than killing stuff. That's just bloody and nasty. Gimme good lovin', FTW.

 

 

Do you know why i compared the woman to a tiger? It's not because the woman is actually a threat.

It's because platonically loving a woman kills you inside. Doing nothing about this love kills you inside, you need to know if you have a chance with her and go for it or that it's going nowhere and move on and forget her, or else the pain can be unbearable.

 

Love is irrational, yes. But you need to be rational when going to talk to the girl, try to get her to like you instead of "hey you're hot let's get busy?" or something, like the OP did.

And this is what i was trying to explain with a nice, simple and bloody metaphor to help the OP stop suffering. Of course, maybe it's not love that he is feeling.

ROTFLMBO - didn't you have a prob with a girl in a thread about love - and within a week or two, you have mad advice? Look, all I can do is tell about my success and failures - and what works for most guys I know. I don't know you - and from the post about you stalking your prey and everything sounds like you drew bow in a deer hunt. It's not a game, kid - it's life. You can look at a women as prey (ok, women in a pack count) and maybe it works for you - but cats I've seen try that end up complaining they don't get out much. Just sayin'.

Oh yeah - I remember our views of love are different - and pretty much completely opposite. Infatuation will leave you dazed, confused and believing you got hit by an 18-wheeler. Love - for most of my running buddies - is thinking things out and leaving irrational behaviour in the dust.

I was being sarcastic as far as that - but back in the day when I was a heathen, I got some action by acting just like that.

You can pretty much look at a babe and talk to her for a minute or two and see where her head's at. I haven't been shot down in nearly 10 years.

 

Yes, that was me. Thing is i knew what my problem was and that i had a problem, i just was too weak or too in love to deal with it. Now here i am trying to help this fella stay away from where i was. Just because i played with a tiger metaphor doesn't mean i see women as prey, and i don't see it as a game, but in that post i just said what everybody else said, but i guess it's criminal to use metaphors now. Maybe i went too far with the "love is suffering" thing, but like you said, "all I can do is tell about my success and failures - and what works for most guys I know.", and my failure was not being strong enough to do what works. And as i said, the advice i gave him is just what everybody else posted, just behind a tiger metaphor i did joking, that made me look like a women-stalker now, i guess >.>




Flow -"The important is to pwn other ppl"