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idk, have you checked Quora yet?

My mother says she never thought about it before having me, she was just going through the motions as anyone sane in this society does and then suddenly discovered that taking care of a child and seeing it grow is the most amazingly charming thing she has ever experienced in her whole life. She experienced a kind of love that's just overwhelmingly different that's just too different to any other, even the one she feels towards my grandparents. Watching me to grow up as a nice person makes her feel very satisfied, she also comments, it fillls a void.

So I guess you could argue that, in a way, the point of having children is to experience something that's out of the ordinary of whatever characterised your earlier life.



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I don't know if this is the whole reason -- or if this speaks for anybody else -- but my reason for having a child was, in part, philosophical. So far as I can tell, I have this one life. And it seems to me that fatherhood has been a large part of the human experience since forever (and figures to continue to be, going forward). I wanted to have that experience, as a means of fully investigating what it means to be human, in the small time I have to do so. I wanted to see childhood from the other end.

And by being a father, it has given me insight into my own upbringing, into my parents and the choices that they made, and into what other people around the world routinely experience. Being a father, furthermore, has pushed me to evaluate and develop myself in ways I had not even considered previously. It has provoked me to be more reflective than ever before. It has made me a better person (mostly).

It is often crushingly hard, being a parent -- for me, at least -- and I would not recommend it to everyone. But if I could, I would not choose otherwise for myself.



Lonely_Dolphin said:

Sustaining humanity would be the technical reason, but cmon no one actually cares about that. Maybe sustaining their own family name or some egotistical nonsense like that. The way I see it, there's very few good reasons to create more humans. One positive I could see be more social opportunities, but surely the spouse and friends should be enough. There is no reason one needs to experience having a child, and even then, I think adoption is better. Potentially helps those who's unfortunate existence is too late to prevent. Of course I would have a negative view on this given my upbringing, so perhaps that's keeping me from seeing the point.

No need to be bitter towards having children just because you're too lonely a dolphin to make any yourself.



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There is no point. 



If you require alcohol to have fun, then you have a problem

You can like to have kids or not but even if not you should understand that there is a difference between having kids or having friends so that you need no kids for social activities.

What a weird comparison



Azuren said:
Lonely_Dolphin said:

Sustaining humanity would be the technical reason, but cmon no one actually cares about that. Maybe sustaining their own family name or some egotistical nonsense like that. The way I see it, there's very few good reasons to create more humans. One positive I could see be more social opportunities, but surely the spouse and friends should be enough. There is no reason one needs to experience having a child, and even then, I think adoption is better. Potentially helps those who's unfortunate existence is too late to prevent. Of course I would have a negative view on this given my upbringing, so perhaps that's keeping me from seeing the point.

No need to be bitter towards having children just because you're too lonely a dolphin to make any yourself.

Misery loves company.



"Say what you want about Americans but we understand Capitalism.You buy yourself a product and you Get What You Pay For."  

- Max Payne 3

People are genetically wired to want children, that's how we've come so far. Thanks to technological and social advancements most reasons to have children have vanished. Good thing there will always be miserable people who won't be distracted by comforts of normal life and need to make children to support them emotionally and economically.

Either way, the next 100 years are gonna be really interesting.



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Well, I didn't want to miss out on what life with children has to offer. I'm a father of two now and wouldn't change it for anything. It gives another purpose to life, helps you grow as a person, challenges you in new ways, brings great responsibility and so on. It's not always easy but all those feelings both positive and negative are a part of life.

And everything donathos said in his post.



Lonely_Dolphin said:
melbye said:
I think you need to become a parent to be able to answer that question

Why? It's not like having a child gifts you with exclusive knowledge that can't be comprehended otherwise. Though I believe there are some parents on this site, hopefully they'll weigh in.

Spending time with my friends kids is pretty fun and interesting, so maybe having my own could be better, but based on the shape of my friends sometimes, it's pretty hard to believe that. More kids = less/no sleep. lol

While I would say the majority of the time spent with them just leads to nonsense at their age, it does make you think of a lot of things you wouldn't otherwise, and can sometimes be quite eye opening. Especially when their young enough to be able to mostly comprehend, yet still don't have a filter. That can really be useful at times when they tell you things about yourself that you don't see, and other adults don't see or filter out. Depending on what type of person you are, being asked tough questions you really don't fully understand the answer to, can lead to more in depth thought about that subject later on in your free time, after you've said I dunno for the tenth time or lied or gave the kid a cookie to be quiet. lol



It is also insurance against loneliness. Look, everyone you know now will be dead at some point. You’ll be alone, so you need to make new family otherwise there won’t be anyone at your own funeral.